kiki_eng: Lady Liberty kisses Lady Justice (it is a swept back and dramatic kiss) - Text: "Libery/Justice OTP" (Liberty/Justice: OTP)
I am so excited about the legalisation of same sex marriage in the United States. I almost cried at work; I have a lot of feelings about this. It's one of my countries and I watched states change their laws and I wouldn't really believe it when people would say that it had happened - I'd go and find a news source that I trusted and verify it with that. ...and it's happened now, and that's, like, completely amazing to me.

Like, it's not done, (The queers are not fully looked after by the American justice system. There are other laws that need to be changed.) but it's pretty nice all the same - marriage is legal in the USA now!

Ten years ago felt so incredibly bleak in terms of where things were politically in the States, and, you know, there is still a lot of shit going down, but this is really nice, and, like, when it happened in Canada in 2005 it was the fourth country in the world to legalise it and I haven't heard anyone listing the USA's number yet, and that's really awesome to me.

I am feeling reasonably optimistic today.

On Sunday I am planning on going to Pride in Toronto and going to watch the parade. I'm looking forward to it. I haven't been to a parade in five years and I know I've got glitter somewhere.


Feb. 27th, 2012 09:33 pm
kiki_eng: light purple lilacs with soft unfocused blue-purple background (lilacs)
After I had dinner tonight I opened up my computer and I read things, bits and pieces that were linked on my reading list and network:

Thanks, But No Thanks by [ profile] jedibuttercup
Star Trek; Rating: PG; 700 words; Focus: Nyota Uhura

Maybe one day he'll find something worth taking seriously, realize the way he treats female officers matters, and settle into an officer worth serving.

You Play the Cards You're Dealt by [ profile] tristesses
Sherlock; Rating: PG-13; 678 words; Focus: Sally Donovan

And of course, it's also personal. Little things, the sort that are annoyances once or twice but add up over time, the mathematics of hatred: it's the way he smirks at her like he's seconds away from spilling all her secrets; how he calls her Sally instead of Donovan, without her permission (you don't hear him calling Lestrade by his first name, nor Anderson, oh no, it's strictly their surnames, sometimes their titles); his sneering implications (the state of your knees, Sally, like it's any of his business, like Anderson isn't equally blameworthy for fucking around behind his wife's back)[. . .]

Life With and Without Animated Ducks: The Future Is Gender Distributed by Cat Valente

Right this very second, here in the US, we are having an actual, serious, if incredibly stupid, conversation about whether or not women should have easy access to birth control. We are having this conversation because significant humans in our government believe women should not have access to it at all. I'm super excited about that, because it means it's 1965 and we're gonna go to the moon soon.

The Underground Rail by [personal profile] pocketnaomi

The Ms. Magazine blog entry of a couple of days ago (, for those who want to read it) talks about a woman who is facing criminal charges in Idaho for ordering an abortofascient drug over the Internet because she couldn't make the trip to the nearest clinic, several hours away. I live within a day trip of some parts of Idaho. I started thinking, "If I'd taken a weekend to do it, I could've gone and picked her up, I bet. Taken her there, brought her back."

ILU-486 by Amanda Ching
Original Fiction; Rating: R?; ~8, 000 words

She was worried because she’d taken three large white pills a day ago, and while she was clotting and cramping and the like, if she didn’t get taken care of soon, she was going to have to explain the miscarriage to the police. They would find out. She didn’t know how they did, but she was already on warning. Sally swore they had detectors in the sewer pipes, but that sounded ridiculous.
kiki_eng: a woman makes an unimpressed face - text: "Original Cindy is not impressed." (Dark Angel) (Original Cindy is not impressed.)
So there's this word that I stopped using a while ago when I realised that it was hurtful.

I should say, there's this word that I stopped using within a certain context when I realised that that context was hurtful, when I realised that using that word to mean pathetic, pitiful, sad, boring, bad, inadequate is associating those words with people who are none of those things.

When I was in middle school I met someone who, whenever someone used the word "gay" as a slur, addressed it. When people spat it out like it was something dirty or used it casually to mean bad things they went Hey. That's not cool. I don't remember what they actually said; it probably changed a bit each time, but that was the message, and you know what? It got through to a lot of people.

That usage of the word "gay" is one that never entered my speech. I don't know that it would have, if I'd never met that person; I don't remember how I felt about that word before they started calling people on it. They are probably responsible for my being able to express, at an early age, why that usage is problematic.

I'm telling that story here because I think that people will relate to it, because I think that most of Fandom can go Yeah, no, using "gay" as a slur, that's not cool, and because "gay" is sometimes used interchangeably with "lame".

I've never used the word "gay" as a slur, but I have used "lame". I knew, when I used it, that it was a word that meant - and I am just going to use Merriam-Webster here - "having a body part and especially a limb so disabled as to impair freedom of movement" or "marked by stiffness and soreness <a lame shoulder>", but it somehow did not occur to me at the time that those other definitions - "inferior", "contemptible, nasty", etc. - stem from the first, that they are a way of saying that disabilities and by extension disabled persons are contemptible and nasty. So, yeah, using "lame" as a slur isn't cool.

That's not something that I connected on my own. I stumbled on a blog post that casually mentioned "lame" as ableist language before I went ...Right. and stopped using it.

This is a post that I've been thinking about making for a while, because it's something that I think needs to be said, and because it's something that's been relevant to my fannish experience lately.

I've gotten into bandom this past year. It's something that I'm really excited about. There are years and years worth of fic out there and some of it is kind of ridiculously awesome. There is fic out there that I pretty much love everything about, ever, except for its ableist language.

The thing is, these are fics that I would gleefully rec if they didn't use the word "lame" as a slur. They do, is the thing, and that significantly reduces my enjoyment of a work and how comfortable I feel recommending it to other people. It's frustrating, because there are so many other, better, words that these writers could be using and the one that they are using is hurtful.

This is a post that I'm writing today because there's discussion going on in bandom right now about using the word "faggot", and this, this? It's the same thing; it's a slur.


Jun. 24th, 2011 11:13 pm
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Expected to be legalised in New York following a 33-29 Senate vote.

ETA: ...and it goes into effect in 30 days. (Yay!)


Jul. 15th, 2010 12:24 pm
kiki_eng: Lady Liberty kisses Lady Justice (it is a swept back and dramatic kiss) - Text: "Libery/Justice OTP" (Liberty/Justice: OTP)
Now legal in: The Netherlands, Belgium, Spain, Canada, South Africa, Norway, Sweden, Portugal, Iceland, and Argentina.

Those last three are all this year, which is, you know, pretty exciting.
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Marriage legalised in Portugal. Yay. The implanted non-adoption bit is shit, mind.

It's heading up to five years since it was legalised in all of Canada, making Canada the fourth country to get rid of its discriminatory marriage policies, and now Portugal's the eighth country in the world. I mean, progress is exciting, but it feels so slow.
kiki_eng: actress, Billie Piper, wearing red glasses and laughing with her face scrunched up (Billie Piper is happy laughing joyful)
The president can still veto it and it needs to go through another parliamentary vote, apparently.

Source: BBC and Le Figaro
kiki_eng: black and white, a man in a suit stands in an office building at night, his back to the viewer (Torchwood) (Ianto in an office)
Some of the brouhaha over sexism, racism and ableism in the upcoming Stargate: Universe series (a.k.a. Gatefail 2009) has been wonderfully explained and articulated by Cate. It's worth checking out. Familiarity with the franchise is not required; the issues at hand go far beyond Stargate and the specifics of this fuck-up are well explained for strangers. (The post contains episode and series spoilers for Universe.)

I had not quite realised previously that Jimmy Carter was awesome. He is. I say this because of this: Losing my religion for equality - Jimmy Carter on misogyny and religion.

[ profile] cereta wrote On rape and men a few months ago. Her livejournal post has, to date, 4262 comments. She wrote about the systemic nature of rape in our culture and the need for a strong counter voice in our society, for men to tell stories to other men about being a decent human being. There are 26 pages of comments of people telling those stories, and stories of rape, assault and abuse, thanking her for posting, people not understanding the issue at hand or their privilege and others patiently explaining it to them, over and over.

I think I spent a month wandering around thinking about this - about consent issues, about my need as a decent human being to make sure that others are okay, about my own experience with assault, about all the little things that shape the world of women and make it not the same world that men inhabit, about fear, about entitlement, about the people who've tried to keep me safe, and about the need for change.

Joss Whedon's Equality Now speech is a nice bit of rhetoric on why he writes strong women characters. It's just good.
kiki_eng: actress, Billie Piper, wearing red glasses and laughing with her face scrunched up (Billie Piper is happy laughing joyful)
There are some excellent vids out there about the need for changing gender-discriminatory marriage laws.

Often when people make the argument for changing these laws they focus on discrimination, equality, and constitutional rights; they don't make the emotional plea. Fidelity does. It's set to the song of the same name by Regina Spektor and was made in response to the "Yes" vote on Proposition 8 in California and Ken Starr and the Prop 8 Legal Defense Fund's subsequent attempt to nullify existing marriages in that state. They had people send in photos to make this. It's very simple, and watches a lot like a family slide show in a lot of ways, only each photo has different people in it. It's very powerful.

Prop 8 - The Musical is wonderful. Jack Black plays Jesus, which likely gives you a fairly good idea of the piece. It makes some very nice points for equality, clear and funny.

Sex With Ducks by Garfunkel and Oates is a satirical response to a comment from the religious right. The music video is well done and the song is dangerously catchy. (You have been warned.)


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